Negatives of dating
I had been married and in subsequent serious relationships, so for me these dates were the emotional equivalent of riding a ten-speed bike next to someone on training wheels.My friend Jane, an online dating poster child and proselyte, nudged me towards Internet dating, social dating, Facebook dating, or the old-fashioned way of meeting offline at work or with a little help from your friends or grandmother.
Knowing he'd gone through a difficult divorce—one he didn't really want—I was pleased when he immediately introduced me to his new girlfriend, Carol. Andy and Carol turned to one another and began mumbling something indecipherable for what seemed to be an eternity.
Considering the same multitude of purposes exist in the online realm of dating as well as the real world shows that there are just as many misunderstandings and the same amount of hurt feelings.
Lynn Schofield Clarks research with teens showed that online relationships provoke an excessive amount of hurt feelings because different intentions are not voiced as quickly as they are in real world relationships.
In my zeal to find out as much about Andy's good fortune as possible I innocently asked: "So, how'd you two meet? Realizing I stepped into something awkward I thought to myself: OMG they met in prison; or on a street corner.
After a few seconds passed and all of our skin tones returned to a normal light pinkish color Carol responded: "Well, uh, we met online...that's right...online...the computer." Okay, so it was a pretty good impression of Annie Hall, but why all the fuss? Why are people embarrassed to admit they use this remarkable invention?